Being creative is one thing, but being creative as a couple can be a good relationship builder. One exercise that my wife and I decided to engage in was a type of creative drawing. We thought it would be just something fun to do but once we finished the exercise, we actually learned something that we could use to enhance the quality of our relationship...
Story Behind The Creative Drawing
While in Florida, my wife and I were visiting close friends of ours for the week before our Royal Caribbean cruise. One day, while our friends were at work, we decided to go grab something to eat from Panera Bread – they had a drive through and a table indicator device where they would bring your food to your table (I'm still waiting for all Panera Breads to implement this).
While eating and talking, I said "How do we know that the colors we see with our eyes appear the same way in other people eyes?"
"I don't know, I guess it's kind of subjective", Kia replied.
This led us to talk about how different words creates different images in the minds of individuals. For example, if I say apple, some people will think of the food. Others will think of their iPhones.
This had me thinking, when communicating our thoughts, how well are we delivering our messages so that our partner is getting a clear understanding? We decided to try this out when we got back to the house with an exercise involving colored pencils (we couldn’t find any crayons in the house).
We decided to do a small experiment with each other and have fun doing it by tapping into our creative side and drawing our thoughts on paper. We had to think of an image, then convey that image to one another and both of us would take time to draw it out. This was actually a vulnerable thing for me to do because I always would say that I never did hone my skills in drawing. So, of course I was a little uncomfortable in grabbing some color pencils and attempt to make my masterpieces. But for pure fun and curiosity, I was excited to see what Kia and I would come up with.
How We Conducted The Exercise
We both had a piece of paper and the box of color pencils in front of us.
We had to take turns explaining an object or a scene that came to mind. Being as descriptive as possible, we had to explain to each other what we saw in our minds. The shape, the decorative styles, the background…
I would give my description, then we both would draw the image we had in our minds. Next we would switch; she would give me her description and we would draw. There could be no peeking during the whole process.
After we both were done, we turned to show each other our pictures and what a difference they were!
My Turn At Conveying My Creative Image
I attempted to explain a wine bottle with a spout at the top and a swirl on the side of the bottle to represent flowing water which resulted in this:
Kia's Creative Exercise
She explained to me a room with a table in the middle of the floor with a note on the table and what she saw outside of the window:
What We Took Away From The Exercise
As you can see, we both had totally different images from each other! This ended up being a fun creative exercise. By allowing our inner child to come out, we bonded over playing creatively. We also learned something from the exercise.
We were able to see first hand that down to the simplest of things, we held different concepts from what each other was trying to communicate. We thought, how much more different does it become with complex issues. This exercise allowed us to have more compassion with each other in situations where we are at odds with each other. This allowed us to take a step back and actually attempt to gain clarity from each other's point of view before just jumping into an argument.
Next time you’re with your partner, take some time to tap into your inner child and do this drawing exercise with each other. It’s a fun and creative way to learn so much about each other.
Once you complete this exercise with your partner, leave a comment below. What was your experience? Did you learn anything about how well you communicate with each other?
We found that the person doing the interpretive drawing of the description given was a little more well put together than the person who actually thought up the image. I'm very curious about your experience in this area. Who had the better drawing, the one who originated the image or the one who interpreted the idea? (If one of you can draw and the other can't, then disregard who drew it better)