When you look in the mirror, what’s the predominate stories you believe about yourself? The qualities that make you who you are, the ones that you don’t possess and you tell yourself, “that’s just not me”. What you hold yourself to be feels so true because you've been believing in it for so long that it feels unnatural to act any other way. What if you found out that who you think you are was false and the only reason you can’t see yourself to be anything else is because you have become too familiar with yourself?
Believing In The Lies That Sounds True
Growing up I was a shy person, very introverted (for the record shy and introvert is not the same thing). I was always told that I was shy or I would hear, “That’s just him, he’s such a shy boy.” I heard it so much and I had enough evidence for myself which proved I was that I knew I was just too bashful to spark up conversations with random people.
Hearing and witnessing the same thing over and over made me being a shy person sound like truth. It was my identity. But after growing within personal development, I began to find out that what I thought was my true identity was actually a false story that I told myself over and over.
As I grew as a person, it become so easy to talk to people. “Stranger danger” didn’t feel so dangerous anymore. The more I went against what I thought was my nature, the more this stronger character became my nature. Instead of believing in the old self which was so familiar, I began to believe in another, better story of myself.
This is just one quick example but I’m sure you could think of many more examples you could find about your own self. Holding on to an image of yourself only to challenge that belief and find that you are more can be a liberating experience. There are many layers to who you are and becoming too familiar with just one layer that limits you and claiming it as your identity can be crippling.
It’s Your Story To Tell
Our lives and who we are is our story, so why not choose a good one to tell. Not only that, why not believe in a better one. There may be an image of yourself that you have become too familiar with. It may be hard to look past this image and see someone greater, but that’s exactly who has been waiting to be found.
Being too familiar with who you think you are keeps you in a pattern that you may not like. To break out of that pattern, I invite you to question who you are. Is it absolutely true that you can’t be greater than who you are at this very moment? Is it absolutely true that because you were told all your life how much of a screw up you are that you don’t deserve to have anything better in life?
If you can find any crack in your story, then it can’t be absolutely true; and if it’s not an absolute, then you can choose a better story. If you choose, you can begin to create a better image of yourself and systematically strip away the familiar you.
Looking in the mirror and becoming too familiar with who you think you are can hold you back from ever growing to the person you would want to be. Wanting to be a dynamic speaker but your too familiar with being timid, so you turn away from that possibility and write it off as “That’s just not me”. Wanting to start your own small business but you’ve become too well acquainted with yourself not knowing anything about business, so you tell yourself, “Oh, I could never do that”.
Familiarity breeds contempt and there’s a large amount of disrespect we tend show our own selves. We were not made to be small, we were made to seek expansion. To be the greatest selves we could possibly be. That does not mean settling for a limiting belief about ourselves and becoming too familiar with it. It means to trust in our true nature, which is to expand, and create a story worth telling.
It’s the story we tell ourselves—about ourselves—and believe in that we live day by day. Telling a better story to ourselves can lead to us experiencing more in life. Find qualities in ourselves that we never knew we had; the strength in us we never knew. Create a story that is a great one, but unfamiliar to who you believe you are and keep passing on belief to that new image until the unfamiliar becomes familiar.