Have you ever had a moment where you were hoping for the best outcome in a situation only to have it not end up the way you wanted? In those moments, did you respond with, "I knew it, I knew that was going to happen"? This saying gives a clue to your thought process that would be wise to pay attention to and take the initiative to change.
The Stronger Expectation
Behind this saying reveals your true beliefs about an outcome. Confessing your feelings that you knew an undesirable outcome would happen shows that you had a strong expectation that things wouldn’t work out. As Earl Nightingale expressed on multiple occasions, we more often than not get out of life what we expect.
Working for an outcome only to get another, one that you knew you were going to get, is to actually get what you truly prepared yourself for. You may have wanted to get a better result but what you really expected was that you wouldn’t; so that’s exactly what you received.
To hope for a better outcome only to expect the opposite is to reroute your mental power, weaken your resolve and bring about the stronger belief. Hoping is not enough to combat against what you know, especially if what you know goes against what you hope for. You will continue to express and bring forth what you know.
There’s a difference between hope and expectation. Hoping to obtain a result is more like wanting a certain result but not being sure if it will happen or not. Having an expectation of obtaining a result is to have a strong belief that it will be done; bringing certainty to the mind that the desired result must come to past.
Always Knowing That The Negative Will Come To Past
Majority of the time, the phrase “I knew it” is expressed when something negative happens. The person says it as if they want an award for being right. Those who use it on a daily basis have been trained not to expect much. Even when going for a goal, they tend to hold their negative expectation in their minds and they fall short of their goal, receiving their expectation.
Having fell short of a goal many times in the past, it conditions people to not expect much. They begin to repeat this phrase over and over, only to confirm their belief over and over. Having such low expectation becomes a defense mechanism. It’s a way of protecting themselves from disappointment.
Instead of having high hopes only to have them shattered by setbacks or falling short of a goal, clinging to the thought of it not going the way they want it helps lessen the sting when it doesn’t go their way. It becomes more of an easy out. “I knew it wasn’t going to happen anyway.”
Having this type of attitude, it’s no way someone can go for a goal with all their mite. Attempting to succeed all the while knowing that failure is eminent, it makes no sense to invest so much energy into succeeding. People limit themselves by holding on to these negative expectations and of course we tend to get what we expect.
If it is true that life majority of the time returns to us what we expect, then it would be wise to check what we know will happen and begin to place more belief into what we really want to happen. Just like any other limiting belief dealing with the mind, it may take some time and practice to change this type of thought process, but it will be a change that will lead us in a better direction.
Next time something happens that is good, say I knew it. Even if the outcome was a pleasant surprise, affirm that you knew it was going to happen. It’s a step towards retraining your mind to expect more frequently the good results instead of having the pessimistic view of the situation.