Many people are afraid to dream or have big goals because they doubt if they are actually able to do or have what it takes to succeed. The questions are usually asked of themselves, “Can I really do this?” or “Do I have what it takes to get it done?” These questions and others like them are ones that doesn’t need to be asked; the answer will always be the same. Understanding why the answer will always be the same will reveal to you what other questions are more pertinent to ask…
Do I Really Want This?
It’s not about if you have what it takes, it’s not even about if you can have it, it all boils down to if you really want it. You see, the first kind of questions are always the same answer—yes. You don’t need permission to have anything you want out of life. If history proves anything, it proves that people can have anything they can dream of; the question is do you actually want it?
The thought of if you are able to have something in your life stems from the many limiting beliefs that are placed upon us from so many different factors in our lives growing up all the way till now. What we were told we could and couldn’t have as children, punishments of parents, boundaries in school, friends and family members telling us what we are capable of. All of these scenarios and more conditioned us to belief that some things in life we are not worthy of having. Not saying that all of these scenarios are wrong, most certainly a parent discipling her child to discourage bad behavior is not a bad thing; but without correcting the association of the punishment and worthiness, a person forms the belief that due to so many hardships in her life, she is not worthy of having what she wants.
Am I Willing?
If you want something bad enough, you will find that you are more willing to so more than those who merely wish for it (hopefully the will is only of doing what is legally and morally right). Less excuses are used and less road blocks are identified. When your want is bigger than your wish, your will becomes stronger.
Understanding that it’s not a question of what you can have because you’re already worthy, you come to the conclusion that it’s about deciding exactly what you want and what you are willing to do in order to obtain it. With a strong enough will, the obstacles doesn’t matter. You’re able to press forward without having the slightest doubt if you’re truly able to have your goal.
Being willing to put in the work to get what you want is the more determining factor over if you can do it—achieve a dream—or not. The ability is already there, no one has ever found the limit to a person’s potential and so it is with you. All of the potential that you’ll ever need is already in you, so the questions are what do you really want and are you willing to do what it takes to bring it into fruition?